It can be difficult for children to tell their parents they are getting a divorce. This may be due to a fear of disappointing them since parents are, in many cases, more emotionally invested in their children’s marriages than other loved ones.
You need to talk to your parents about your divorce as soon as possible. Here is how you can do this:
Decide what to say
Plan what to say when talking to your parents about your divorce. You want to be honest but not give too many details. Thus, choose statements that ensure they are well-informed without sharing too much about matters you have not come to terms with yet.
Tell them how you feel
When talking to other people aside from your spouse and child, if you have any, such as your employer, you don’t need to disclose your feelings. But it can help to do so when talking to your parents. If you have fears or concerns, let your parents know about them and how they can support you.
Discuss what you plan to do
While you may not have everything mapped out, your parents might be concerned about your plans. Where will you live? Who will stay with the kids before the divorce is finalized? Are you seeking therapy? How are your finances?
These are a few examples of the common questions parents ask when they learn their children are getting a divorce. Thus, you should be ready for them. Provide answers if you have or tell them you are still planning. It’s vital to set clear boundaries during the conversation to avoid feeling pressured to make decisions.
You may never have thought you would have a divorce conversation with your parents, but things change. The tips discussed above can help you have a smoother conversation. You should also consider legal guidance to understand the divorce process in depth.