Communicating effectively during your divorce in Virginia
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Communicating effectively during your divorce in Virginia

On Behalf of | Nov 16, 2022 | Family Law

If you are getting divorced, communication will be key. You and your spouse will need to communicate effectively in order to deal with important issues, like child custody and property division, and ensure that you have a smooth divorce. While there are many ways to ensure that your communication is effective, you can get started by doing the following.

Keeping communication channels open

It’s important that you and your spouse keep the lines of communication open even if you don’t always agree on everything. You should make sure that you are both able to express yourselves without interruption, and that you are both willing to listen to each other. If you can’t have a civil conversation with your spouse, you may need to consider using mediation or arbitration to help resolve your differences.

Communicating in a respectful way

Even if you are angry with your spouse, it’s important that you communicate in a respectful way. Avoid name-calling, and try to stick to the facts when you are communicating with each other. If you can’t have a respectful conversation, it may be best to communicate through a professional.

Keeping emotions in check

It’s normal to feel emotional during your divorce, but it’s important to try and keep your emotions in check when you are communicating with your spouse. If you find that you are getting too emotional, take a step back and take some time to calm down before continuing the conversation.

Avoiding the use of “you” statements

When you are communicating with your spouse, avoid using “you” statements. For example, instead of saying “You never listen to me,” try saying, “I feel like I’m not getting being heard.” These types of statements will help you to avoid putting your spouse on the defensive and will help to keep the conversation constructive.

Divorce processes can be very difficult, not just emotionally but also logistically. Communication is a key element in divorce because it allows both parties to express what they want and need. With a little effort and empathy, both during and after the divorce, things can progress much more smoothly.