Often, people who manage to maintain positive relationships with their ex-spouse and former in-laws following a divorce seem like an anomaly. Considering the immediate detrimental effects divorce can have on children, it would seem to be important to preserve all supportive familial relationships for the sake of the kids. In fact, research from the University of Virginia found that children’s grades quickly begin to suffer as soon as parents begin the divorce process. This is only one of the many negative impacts children have to deal with.
While it may feel like an impossible feat to try and maintain a relationship with your former in-laws following a divorce, it is important to make the effort. The good news is, this can be done.
Make your intentions known
Family law judges establish custody and visitation rights for divorcing parents with their children. However, grandparents and other extended family are often left out. In order to preserve those relationships, it is important to convey your wishes to your former in-laws. Let them know that you want them to maintain a strong presence in your children’s lives, and you want to work on ways to make that happen.
Be mindful of your actions
Now that you have divorced your former in-laws’ family member, it is likely your relationships have now changed. You might not be able to interact with them the same way as before the divorce, and feelings could be a bit raw. Being mindful of everything you say and do around your in-laws can help to ensure feelings will not get hurt. This can also help facilitate a better relationship with your ex and keep you out of unnecessary family court proceedings
Life after divorce can be good, and it is never too late to mend important relationships for the sake of your children. Additionally, you don’t have to lose family members that you have grown to love over the years. Keeping these relationships intact could make a real difference in how both you and your children recover.